“I brake for birds, I rock a lot of polka dots, I have touched glitter in the last 24 hours, […] and I find it fundamentally strange that you’re not a dessert person. That’s just weird, and it freaks me out. And I’m sorry I don’t talk like Murphy Brown, and I hate your pantsuit. I wish it had ribbons on it, or something to make it just slightly cuter. And that doesn’t mean I’m not smart and tough and strong.” –Jess
Maybe these words have also stuck in your head because, like me, you’re a polka dot lover. Maybe you brake for turtles. And, instead of having “touched glitter in the last 24 hours,” perhaps you spent a generous amount of time over the last few days making felt flowers and a felt baguette. Okay, maybe I’m just talking about me now.
Or, maybe these words have stayed with you because, like me, you don’t believe that enjoying things like polka dots, knitting, sewing, smiling, making felt flowers, or baking homemade granola bars means that you are weak. That you are not to be taken seriously. That you are not a total badass who does all those things and more. Neither does Zooey Deschanel. Though, the rest of the world is not quite as evolved considering the “You’d make a great housewife” comments I get now and again.
Before I opened up Home Made, I had a few different jobs in the social work field and one of them was working as a community organizer on some political issues. During that time, I learned so much about how to listen in to what motivates people, how to organize them around what they care about, how to connect. All skills I use running my own business.
But, probably the most significant thing I learned from that job was that I didn’t want to put on the Murphy Brown pantsuit. It just wasn’t me. Even though it seemed like I was being asked appear more tough and serious and organizer-ly. Read: Smile less. Be less feminine. And, don’t event think about polka dots.
I quit that job. Obviously. And, since then I’ve thought a lot about what it means to find the path that allows you to most be yourself. Especially, when it just so happens that your path turns into operating a business around the things you love. Those very things that are often lumped into a dismissive box labeled “girlie.”
Chances are that if you read this blog, you are a little more Martha Stewart than Murphy Brown. You find satisfaction in making things. Hopefully that also means that you connect with your best, truest self when you are creating. And, that most certainly means that you are smart and tough and strong.
I’d also say it means that
you we are pretty well equipped to take that unnecessary “girlie” box, break it down, and turn it into something better. Covered in polka dots!
You can purchase Confetti Dot fabric in quarter yard cuts or half yard bundles in the Home Made shop!